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  • Greg Cheney, PhD, LMFT

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is an effective way to improve your relationship. EFT helps couples understand what drives frustration and disconnection. Behind most struggling relationships is a pattern of misunderstanding and unmet needs. Once this pattern is discovered, Emotionally Focused Therapy helps couples disrupt and change this pattern. Disrupting and changing this pattern provides the opportunity to experience your relationship in a new way. You can experience understanding, connection, and fulfillment in your relationship. This provides the possibility to now find new solutions to old problems, and helps sustain long-lasting change in your relationship.


Loving couple after learning how emotionally focused therapy helps their marriage.

Learn More About EFT.

If you’re looking for ways to strengthen your marriage or relationship, consider learning more about EFT. EFT focuses on understanding and sharing emotions rather than trying to push them aside or control them. You can improve communication and build stronger bonds by learning to identify and express emotions. When conversations and arguments become intense couples tend to express the hard emotions of anger and defensiveness. Some couples can disengage altogether when this happens. An EFT therapist helps couples understand what fuels those hard emotions. An EFT therapist then helps couples share those softer emotions underneath the hard emotions.


Understand The Benefits of EFT For Relationships.

EFT has been used successfully by couples and individuals for decades to improve relationships. It works because it helps couples understand themselves and helps couples understand each other. EFT helps couples to understand the pattern of disconnection in their relationship, and helps couples connect more effectively. Research shows that Emotionally Focused Therapy helps more than 70% of couples treated move from distress to recovery. Approximately 90% of couples treated show significant improvements in their relationship!


Discover How to Apply EFT In Your Relationship.

EFT is an effective technique for understanding emotions and improving communication between partners. Your EFT therapist will help kick start a natural growth process within. This will help improve your relationship even between sessions. Emotionally Focused Therapy helps improve many areas of life. When you experience yourself, your partner, and your relationship in a new way this can also improve your overall outlook. When our most important relationship goes well it provides a secure base to launch from into the daily grind of life. It also provides a safe haven to retreat to when life gets hard.


Learn Why You Should Find an EFT therapist.

If you’re feeling frustrated with your partner, you might find yourself getting angry at them. Or maybe you’re just not connecting with each other anymore. In either case, it makes sense to take steps to improve your relationship. One option is to seek professional help from someone who specializes in Emotionally Focused Therapy. A qualified EFT therapist will teach you how to understand your emotions. They will help you understand your partner’s emotions. Most importantly, they will help you reconnect with each other in the way you always dreamed of.


Counseling Services at Valiant Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling

Emotionally Focused Therapy isn’t the only service we offer in our Fuquay Varina counseling clinic. Other mental health services we provide include couples & marriage counseling, couples intensives, Christian marriage counseling, online therapy, and couples workshops.

  • Greg Cheney, PhD, LMFT

Dishonesty in a marriage can put a strain on any relationship. Couples in this situation can begin to question the health of their relationship. They wonder if the marriage is falling apart, and can begin to speculate if the marriage can be fixed. It makes sense to ask these questions, but it can feel overwhelming. This can leave you feeling desperate, confused, and wondering what to do.


What is the next step for marriages where dishonesty is present?


A couple holding hands after marriage counseling to work on dishonesty in their marriage at a Fuquay Varina counseling clinic.

Continue to Reach Out.

The fact that you are here reading this shows that your marriage means a lot to you. You value your marriage enough to get more information and work toward what the next step is. You are demonstrating a significant strength! You are not trying to do this alone. Realizing there is dishonesty in your marriage can be difficult. We are not meant to carry these burdens alone. Continue to reach out and resource yourself. This includes the good information you are finding here, but also includes confiding in a trusted friend, family member, or therapist.

Talk with Your Partner.

If you suspect that your partner has been dishonest with you, talk to them about it. It may be possible to repair your relationship without divorce. This is true when parties agree on how to move forward. If you think your partner has been lying to you, talk to them first before deciding if you are leaving them. It’s possible that they were trying to protect you or themselves. A marriage counselor can help explore this. It is helpful to make decisions about the future of your marriage based on the facts.


Find Out Whether There's Hope for Your Marriage.

If you find yourself wondering if your marriage can be fixed, consider talking with a marriage counselor. A marriage counselor specializes in helping couples work through issues related to dishonesty. A marriage counselor will help you understand why you or your partner might have lied. Exploring your relationship can help to decide whether you want to move forward. You can discover if you want to work together toward healing.


Find a Marriage Counselor.

A good marriage counselor will help you explore why there is dishonesty in your marriage. Then they will work toward what to do about it. This will include improving communication in your marriage. A marriage counselor will help both you and your partner feel heard and understood. This process will help to create understanding. You can discover why there is dishonesty in your relationship. Your marriage counselor will also help you deal with the situation of dishonesty. They will also help you figure out explore if you both want to stay together.


Look for a marriage counselor who specializes in marriage counseling. You will find the best environment when working with someone who is an expert in the field. Do this by looking at how they advertise themselves. Do they offer a lot of different approaches for a lot of different types of clients? Are they focused on a specific approach for a specific client?


Services at Valiant Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling

Our desire is you get the help you need and deserve to move toward reconciling your relationship after dishonesty. If we can help, we would be honored to be a part of this journey with you.


We offer a variety of services in our Fuquay Varina counseling clinic. Mental health services we provide at Valiant Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling include couples & marriage counseling, online therapy, emotionally focused therapy, couples intensives, Christian marriage counseling, and couples workshops.



  • Greg Cheney, PhD, LMFT

Updated: Aug 19

You made what seems like a catastrophic mistake in your relationship. You cheated on your partner. You both are wondering if there is a future together. Is healing possible after cheating? How do you reconcile a relationship after cheating? Here are some important first steps to take to start down the road to reconciliation.

couple walking on a path next to a lake after couples therapy and marriage counseling to reconcile their relationship after cheating

Break off all communication with the person you cheated with.

It is a mistake to not completely sever all forms of communication. Reconciliation rarely occurs when this does not happen. When social or work circles include this person, this is easier said than done. Even in those circumstances it is important to set clear and firm boundaries. When this does not happen reconciliation and healing is so much more difficult. Be sure to include all social media, cell phones, email, and water cooler conversations. Avoid this mistake by severing all forms of communication. Include your partner in this process and allow them to verify if desired.


Be patient if you are the one who cheated.

It is a mistake for the offending partner to become impatient with the healing process. When someone cheats their infidelity eats away at them. The secret can become overwhelming. Guilt and the energy to continue to cover up the indiscretion mounts. Once the infidelity is out in the open this weight is often lifted off the offending partner. They are ready to get past it, but their partner is still hurt, devastated, and confused. They are not able to get past the cheating on a specific timeline. It can be helpful for the offending partner to understand the journey has only begun. It is like they led their partner out into the street and they got hit by a truck. They are there bleeding in the street, and they need their partner to come attend to their wounds. Healing takes time. Avoid this mistake by understanding the betrayed partner's experience and hurt.


Avoid discussing the granular details of what happened.

It can be a mistake to talk about the granular details of what the actual act of infidelity was like. These details can include sexual positions, perfumes/colognes, clothes, and anatomy. A strong desire to know these details is common, but these details do not seem to be helpful in the healing process. Avoid this mistake by focusing on rebuilding trust, conflict management, and healthy communication.


Seek out an expert in couples therapy and marriage counseling.

Make finding an expert in this field a top priority. It is a mistake for a couple to try to reconcile after cheating without using a couples therapist or marriage counselor. The road toward reconciliation is hard and bumpy even with regular couples therapy. Healing is even more difficult when couples try to reconcile without the expertise of a couples therapist. Couples will appreciate someone trained to help navigate through healing from infidelity. There are many dynamics to attend to for couples to experience reconciliation. Avoid this mistake by finding a therapist trained and experienced in couples therapy and marriage counseling.


Services at Valiant Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling

Our desire is you get the help you need and deserve to move toward reconciling your relationship after cheating. If we can help, we would be honored to be a part of this journey with you.


We offer a variety of services in our Fuquay Varina counseling clinic. Mental health services we provide at Valiant Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling include couples & marriage counseling, online therapy, emotionally focused therapy, couples intensives, Christian marriage counseling, and couples workshops.

Services at Valiant Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling

We offer a variety of services for couples in our Fuquay Varina counseling clinic. The mental health services we provide include Emotionally Focused Therapycouples & marriage counseling, couples intensives, Christian marriage counseling, online therapy, and couples workshops.