- Greg Cheney, PhD, LMFT
Can Dishonesty in a Marriage Be Fixed?
Dishonesty in a marriage can put a strain on any relationship. Couples in this situation can begin to question the health of their relationship. They wonder if the marriage is falling apart, and can begin to speculate if the marriage can be fixed. It makes sense to ask these questions, but it can feel overwhelming. This can leave you feeling desperate, confused, and wondering what to do.
What is the next step for marriages where dishonesty is present?
Continue to Reach Out.
The fact that you are here reading this shows that your marriage means a lot to you. You value your marriage enough to get more information and work toward what the next step is. You are demonstrating a significant strength! You are not trying to do this alone. Realizing there is dishonesty in your marriage can be difficult. We are not meant to carry these burdens alone. Continue to reach out and resource yourself. This includes the good information you are finding here, but also includes confiding in a trusted friend, family member, or therapist.
Talk with Your Partner.
If you suspect that your partner has been dishonest with you, talk to them about it. It may be possible to repair your relationship without divorce. This is true when parties agree on how to move forward. If you think your partner has been lying to you, talk to them first before deciding if you are leaving them. It’s possible that they were trying to protect you or themselves. A marriage counselor can help explore this. It is helpful to make decisions about the future of your marriage based on the facts.
Find Out Whether There's Hope for Your Marriage.
If you find yourself wondering if your marriage can be fixed, consider talking with a marriage counselor. A marriage counselor specializes in helping couples work through issues related to dishonesty. A marriage counselor will help you understand why you or your partner might have lied. Exploring your relationship can help to decide whether you want to move forward. You can discover if you want to work together toward healing.
Find a Marriage Counselor.
A good marriage counselor will help you explore why there is dishonesty in your marriage. Then they will work toward what to do about it. This will include improving communication in your marriage. A marriage counselor will help both you and your partner feel heard and understood. This process will help to create understanding. You can discover why there is dishonesty in your relationship. Your marriage counselor will also help you deal with the situation of dishonesty. They will also help you figure out explore if you both want to stay together.
Look for a marriage counselor who specializes in marriage counseling. You will find the best environment when working with someone who is an expert in the field. Do this by looking at how they advertise themselves. Do they offer a lot of different approaches for a lot of different types of clients? Are they focused on a specific approach for a specific client?
Services at Valiant Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling
Our desire is you get the help you need and deserve to move toward reconciling your relationship after dishonesty. If we can help, we would be honored to be a part of this journey with you.
We offer a variety of services in our Fuquay Varina counseling clinic. Mental health services we provide at Valiant Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling include couples & marriage counseling, online therapy, emotionally focused therapy, couples intensives, Christian marriage counseling, and couples workshops.